Self Esteem Spells
Birthday rituals around the world are conducted and candles are placed on a cake and blown out, the one whose birthday it is, blows out the candles and makes a wish, this in itself is an act of magick, and the person blowing out the candles feels a sense of well being when this is done. The cake is then cut and eaten and those eating it each make a wish, by doing this they are participating in magick.
Many of us may remember making a wish and blowing out candles on our birthday cakes as kids; some of us still do this today, but when we were kids many of us were probably completely unaware that by making this wish by the light of a burning mini candle in an offering of flour and sugar we were working our first simple spells. With birthdays being a great day of astrological alignment for use, it’s a great time to set aside a few minutes to do some wish magick not unlike that stuff we did as kids.
One thing is the simple use of a small incantation when blowing out your birthday candles that you might be presented with. Recite this while visualizing your wish. When you blow out the candle see your wish and desire being carried on the smoke up to the Gods and the Universe to fulfill.
”A year has come,
A year has passed,
I’ll make my birthday wish at last.
Magick powers old and new,
Make my birthday wish come true!”
Candle magick is ideal on your birthday so even common, simple candle magick with a single candle in a color corresponding to your astrological sign, carved with your zodiac symbol and name, along with any runes or symbols representing a specific desire, can be a great way to cast a simple wish spell for yourself. Use these color correspondences to find your candle color:
- Aquarius (Jan 20-Feb 18): Sky Blue
- Pisces (Feb 19-Mar 20): Lavender
- Aries (Mar 21-Apr 19): Red
- Taurus (Apr 20-May 20): Green
- Gemini (May 21-Jun 21): Pink
- Cancer (Jun 22-Jul 22): Silver
- Leo (Jul 23-Aug 22): Gold
- Virgo (Aug 23-Sep 22): Navy
- Libra (Sep 23-Oct 22): Green
- Scorpio (Oct 23-Nov 21): Red
- Sagittarius (Nov 22-Dec 21): Navy
- Capricorn (Dec 22-Jan 19): Brown
I have also seen wish spells for birthdays that involve taking a piece of paper or parchment and inscribing it with a rune representing something you desire for the coming year and place it under a new potted plant. As you tend the plant in the coming year you are symbolically tending your desire represented on the paper under the pot.
Ideally magick worked on your birthday should be magick that might be considered “selfish” in nature. It’s a day to honor yourself and to prepare for seeing your wishes come to fruition over the next year. But, while doing that, also acknowledge and celebrate any accomplishments as well. Always give thanks for what you have before asking for more!
You can also use the cake itself as part of the magick. A birthday cake prepared with love brings positive energy to the recipient.
Food is a magickal tool and can be used for positive change in your life. The preparation of food, with a particular intention in mind, is old magic. Look at food as sacred, let the act of preparing, cooking and eating food be a sacred act. When preparing foods for specific magical purposes, cook with purpose and care. Keep your goal in mind, love, money, protection, health, fertility, sex, strength, psychic awareness. Always stir clockwise, clockwise motion is thought to be in harmony with the apparent movement of the sun in the sky, and has been linked with life, health and success.
It is never too early or too late to practice magick. So whenever your birthday is, give it a little bit more magickal consideration. It’s a day that is all about you, so honor yourself and the Divine within.
Source: Jess Carlson
Best performed during the waning moon. Light a pink candle for self-love; anoint it with the oil of your choice. Next light a brown candle. Engrave the number of pounds you want to lose on it, then visualize banishing the excess weight. Runes can be carved on it if you wish. Incense can be burned; visualize the smoke carrying away the excess poundage. Adapt the spell to your own personal needs.
Source: Old Witchcraft
You need three things:
- Jasmine essence, essential oil, or flowers
- A quartz crystal.
- Symbols of each of the four elements – earth, fire, air, and water
Jasmine is the flower of femininity. (I am supposing this magic to be directed to a woman — of course men do want to lose weight too. If this is the case, choose an essence such as Patchouli or Vanilla). It is the flower of senses, of pleasure, of physical attraction. The best suited therefore to bring you back in touch with the pleasure of being in your skin, of looking and feeling attractive, the feeling that exudes naturally from a healthy and balanced body. In fact all the responsibility for weight problems resides somewhere in the body’s loss of its ability to stay balanced.
Deficiencies on the emotional or mental plane are interfering with the body’s natural wisdom. When its balance is impaired its happiness is lost. Through jasmine you may magically evoke that lost sensuous joyfulness. With the crystal quartz you focus your energies on the issue at hand, and give staying power to the healing forces.
Begin the process during the day, when the moon is full. Cleanse and dress yourself and sit in your magic place. Place the jasmine flowers or essence and also the quartz crystal in front of you together with symbols of the four elements (earth, fire, air, and water).
As you call the powers an element will present itself to you, according to where the imbalance is in you. That will of course change the shape of the incantation.
If you are not sure how the elements might present themselves, here are some ideas:
- Air = words and language, aromas and sounds, breathing, flying
- Earth = substance and things, plants and herbs, gardening, drumming,
- Water = emotions and feelings, liquids and water, swimming, cleansing,
- Fire = action, passion, heat, creating, light and color,
In this example I will use the element air – on the basis of this example you can work out the different variations.
So air is in this case the element which speaks, the power which will help you with this magic. Words belong to air magic. Now inhale the scent of the jasmine and relax deeply to ask your subconscious to give you a word – the key word for this magic.
For a few minutes you are sitting with your eyes closed, thinking of nothing. When you sense your mind beginning to wander astray, touch the quartz — its magical powers will help immediately to focus your attention again. Soon the key word will form itself in your conscious mind: in this example it is “independence”. It does not matter that you understand why this particular word should be your key word. Certainly a reason is there, your unconscious has its own deep wisdom — but it is not important that you should be consciously aware of its motives.
Every night, from the full moon to the black moon, you will rub a few drops of jasmine oil on your naked body. While doing this, let the key word “independence” stay in your mind.
As you revel in the fragrance of the jasmine, relaxing, images will come to your mind, suggestions as to how to expand on the independence in your life. Maybe you will have a vision on yourself learning a foreign language.
Following these suggestions is an essential part of this magic; if you want it to work you will have to find a way. The quartz will help you with that. If you find yourself saying “I have too much to do, I cannot possibly fit this in, I never was good at languages anyway.” etc., touch the crystal and feel its energy for a few seconds. It will immediately give you clarity and firmness of purpose, and you will be able to see what you need to do, and have the determination to do it.
Every night, before going to sleep, rub the essence on your body, and experiment with your key word. Keep the crystal with you at all times for this period — to touch it whenever you feel that you need to do so.
Thanks to the magic of the flower, of the crystal, and of the key word given to you by the power air, a deep change will start in this period. A change which will enable you to regain your natural balance, and the grace and beauty that go with it.
Source: Old Witchcraft
A difficult person is someone who throws their emotional energy at you , causing you upset and shock, making you feel defenseless. A difficult person is someone who persecutes you or obstructs your path in life. A difficult person is someone who tries to cause you emotional or physical harm or damage your reputation. A difficult person is someone who tries to steal your belongings, wealth, or creativity.
Such people can be dealt with, but the golden rule is that you should not at any juncture wish them harm. What you must wish them is self- knowledge. You can direct the thought energy of self-knowledge to them in such a way that they will lose their sting toward you.
Do this exercise twice a day, in the morning and evening. Continue it for 3 or 9 days. Longer, if necessary.
Sit quietly, focusing upon the individual and picturing them in your mind. Then direct this thought toward them, speaking it out loud either three or nine times.
“May all blessings flow to you. May self-knowledge flow to you. I reclaim the power you have taken from me, it is mine to take back, it is my right. May love and good fortune come to you now. As I speak now you are no longer a problem for me! Your difficult energy dissolves into wisdom. You regard me with respect.”
At the end of this clap your hands three times very loudly to seal your invocation.
This exercise works with great effect. Think of this as a spiritual kick in the backside that leaves no bruise, creates no harm, and gives you a compassionate view of the situation and the difficult person or people concerned.
This dish accents creative communications, especially with those ever-annoying know-it-alls, wiseacres, gossips, conversation hogs, and those who are quick to jump into discussions just to hear themselves talk! The yellow parsnips, carrots, and pepper reflect the air element, which empowers our words.
- 2 medium carrots
- 2 medium parsnips
- 1 yellow pepper (large)
- 2 tablespoons butter
- 2 cups sliced cabbage
- 1 tablespoon white vinegar
- 3/4 cup soy sauce
- 4 (4-5 oz) fish fillets
- Olive oil
- 3/4 lbs sweet potato, peeled and cooked tender
Cut carrots, parsnips, and yellow pepper into thin strips. As you do, focus on “cutting through” anything that stands between you and speaking your mind.
In a large frying pan (indoors or on the side burner of your grill), place the butter, carrots, pepper, and parsnips to fry. As you notice the carrots and parsnips getting tender, add the cabbage into the fray, along with the vinegar and soy sauce.
Coat the vegetables evenly (you want the magick to flow evenly into all the components) while saying:
Parsnips, help me speak my mind
With carrots and cabbage, my magick binds
Potatoes put me on firm ground
Creative communications shall abound!
When the vegetables are close to being fully cooked, place the fish into a no-stick frying pan with just a touch of olive oil and cook over a low heat.
Using a knife, or toothpick if the fish is delicate, carve a symbol into the fillet that represents your goal. Brown the fish about 5 minutes on each side, adjusting for thickness.
Serve the fish on the bed of sweet potatoes, which will create a firm foundation for your spell. Since fish are symbolically associated with abundance, this dish makes sure you’re never at a loss for words!
NOTE: Enjoy a piece of mint candy or gargle with mouthwash before working this spell. Since you want to manifest the best possible communications, this emphasizes the goal from the inside out. Additionally, min supports effective interactions.
Flora is the Roman spirit of flowering plants and, by extension, of fertility and the life-force. Her festival, the Floralia, once began April 27th and continued for six days of revelry, especially by women of all ages celebrating their own bodies and natural beauty. The festival was celebrated in the nude until the third century CE, when Roman authorities ordered that revelers be clothed. The festival held out in that form for one more century until all pagan festivals were banned. Vestiges survive in May Day celebrations.
Just as every blossom is unique, so is every body. Flora encourages one to cherish one’s own beauty without comparison to any other. This spell is particularly potent if timed to coincide with Flora’s old festival but may be cast at anytime.
Fill your bathtub with as many fresh flowers as possible, especially Flora’s favorite, beautiful, transient bean blossoms. Enter the bath and understand that you too are among Flora’s unique and perfect blossoms.
Source: Encyclopedia of 5,000 Spells
We live in an age where guilt is more often encouraged then pride, where we are encouraged to dwell upon our ‘negative’ points and habits. This is not the way of the Witch. As Witches we must learn to be as honest about our plus points as society would like us to be about our minuses.
Advertising, probably the most pervasive kind of propaganda, encourages us to think of ourselves as ‘less than perfect’ unless we look and dress like the people in the adverts and possess all the things that the advertisers would like us to spend money on. It is worth bearing in mind that if we truly needed these products then there would be no need to put them into commercials!
However, to return to the ‘personal housekeeping’, write a list of 20 of your plus points, things you are good at, and 20 minus points, things you would like to improve. Try not to be influenced by stereotypes – many female Witches include ‘outspoken’ on their list of negatives, while males will describe the same quality as positive! If you absolutely must include your physical attributes on the minus list, then make sure that these are things which you can sensibly expect to change, but don’t fall into the advertisers’ trap. From the perspective of the Witch it is far more important that you should come to terms with the person that you are, rather than worry about the way people see you.
One of the first tasks of the Witch is to understand and accept themselves, with all their good and bad points, because it is only when you understand yourself that you will be in a position to understand others, and therein lies a good portion of Witches’ Magic.
Now, edit the list of the “minus” points by creating sentences that include both the trait that you feel to be negative and the following phrase …. and that’s ok because.
Here are some examples:
- I am a terrible housekeeper, and that’s ok because… I hate cleaning the house.
- I have no self confidence, and that’s ok because… I have plenty of time to to learn how awesome I really am.
- I am over weight and out of shape, and that’s ok because… if I really wanted to do something about it I would.
- I am very stubborn, and that’s ok because… one day I will learn how to become more flexible.
Now, read the “plus” points list and pat yourself on the back, and spend a little bit of time feeling good about yourself. Take all your negative traits, own them, forgive yourself for them. Now, burn or bury both lists. You don’t need a list to tell you who you really are.
By: Kate West and other sources
This is something nice to do as a substitute for the New Years Resolutions we make and break every year.
Make a list of the real wants and needs that you have within you. Maybe you need to give yourself more time, or speak out about the desire for recognition of the person you really are… Only you know what you really want and need. Write it down.
Now, consider the whole nature of gift giving and the appropriateness of the things you yourself have given and received this year. Then, make a present to yourself of one of the things you just listed.
If it requires a phone call, make that call. If it means something must be purchased and you can’t afford it, start by putting pennies in a jar. Do you need to rearrange your schedule? Enroll in a class? Whatever it is… get started right now, today.
Need some help taking that first small step.? Here’s a small blessing spell from me to you:
Take, and welcome joy within you:
Showers, flowers, powers,
Hatfulls, capfulls, lapfulls,
Treasures, measures, pleasures,
All be yours to enjoy.
Verse from The Celtic Devotional
This spell is simple and requires no searching for exotic ingredients. It is performed to draw people to you (friends) and enhance your sexual attraction (if you desire more than friends) In many ways, this is a confidence and self esteem spell. You can focus on a specific person during the rite in order to strengthen the bond between you or to draw that person to you. Remember the laws of return however: That which you send out will often return to you.
Do a thorough physical cleaning of your bathroom, and cover any mirrors with material (white or pink towels or sheets are nice) Then draw a bath and to the water add a small handful (about 1/3 to 1/2 cup) of sea salt or other available salt while saying:
“Negativity is washed away,
I am renewed as of today!
Many heads will turn my way,
the ones I chose will wish to stay.”
Light three white votive candles or place three floating candles in the bath tub, focus on your body, how sensual it is, how beautiful you are. Everyone is beautiful, this spell is just drawing out your best! Women have a strange image of what men desire, and men have an equally odd image of what women desire. This is probably our society’s influences, like TV. Focus on what you like about yourself (there is something). You may also begin to focus on that specific person if desired.
Turn off the lights and turn on your favorite music if possible, something that makes you feel reckless and sexy, or calm and at peace with yourself, depending on your taste, mood, and the desired end result you want. For example, for sex, you may want a sexy rock album, for general attraction, you may want a happy mellow song. The feeling that the music evokes in you is important.
Enter the bath and relax, make sure every part of your body is immersed in the water at least once. If you don’t have a bathtub, tie the salt up in a wash cloth while saying the above words, and use it in the shower.
When you are finished (I spend about an hour and a half in the bathroom and shave, shampoo, etc. beforehand) repeat the original words, plus this ending line, so you’ll say:
“Negativity is washed away,
I am renewed as of today!
Many heads will turn my way,
the ones I chose will wish to stay.”
“I am blessed, I am loving,
I am loved and love myself! I am love!”
It may sound kinda funny, but this one really works. Feel free to intuitively add what you like to this, sandalwood or rose soap, incense, a glass of your favorite ritual beverage, bath oil… especially those made with herbal extracts or essential oils, our favorite perfume or cologne, a special bath towel purchased for this ritual only, etc. Your intuition will only serve to refine this working and enhance its effects!
Source: The Gay Mage
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