Have That Talk
Now that we’ve planned our play date, or maybe we even actually managed to squeeze it into our schedule yesterday and had a bit of fun. Either way, I think it’s important to have a chat with our inner child. Implement lines of communication, find out what our child within wants and needs.
I don’t know what your self talk sounds like when it comes to your inner child. My self talk generally revolves around no we can’t do that yet because we have to do something else and the something else is usually not a fun thing. Berating myself for leaving chaos behind whenever I do have a lot of fun doing something.
It’s so tempting to get all judgmental and authoritarian, maybe because when we were kids our mothers said stuff like:
- You are way too messy… you better clean that up right now.
- Don’t be silly… life isn’t a game.
- Stop being such a baby and grow up.
My idea for a talk with our inner children is more of a Mr. Rogers type chat. Something kind. A cozy little get together where we do a lot of listening, and smiling, maybe even some hugging… Maybe wear a sweater… Possibly there might be tea and cookies! It might even look like this:
During this cozy little chat, let’s find out what our inner child wants and needs in order to be happy. And then let’s make plans to follow through.
How about it guys? What are your thoughts? What does your inner child want and need in order to be happy? Does your self talk reflect the way your actual mom talked to you when you were an actual child? Maybe that’s something that needs to be changed!
Oh and one more thing!
What if we changed the way we talk to ourselves, rewrote the way we tell ourselves what to do. Maybe something like this?
- Time for a bath and bed, tomorrow I’ll help you put your toys away.
- Here, punch this pillow a bunch of times and then we’ll go for a walk.
Lots to think about here!
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Freedom. Freedom to do what I want versus what I need to do as a responsible adult. Ex: to not go to a job I despise because I need money. Freedom to say how I really think/feel instead of biting my tongue so I don’t “upset” anyone…….
Both are tricky I think! Soul sucking jobs that you feel obligated to stick with are, in my mind, a form of slavery! So so so hard to set yourself free from that!!
Saying what you think and feel… I have no answers for that one… I used to really think and rethink every word that came out of my mouth… then at some point I watched a couple of movies that really zinged me… like I had an epiphany about just saying what was on my mind… so I tried to do that… and found myself biting my tongue a lot.. really a lot… then I got a really horrible sinus infection and was sick for like two weeks … high as a kite on prednisone… and I decided that I wasn’t going to do that anymore. So I wrote a letters, emails, and text messages to the people in my life and said to them… no more. I’m going to say what I think when I think it and if you can’t handle it, I’m sorry in advance but I’m going to do it anyway. Ended up dumping a few friends… strengthened a few relationships and my world didn’t collapse…
So my answer to that is … watch some Jim Carey movies… get sick… take a bunch of prednisone… go a little crazy… text everybody… unload on them… take a long nap… and start an art project… 😂😂
I’m sure that wasn’t even a little bit helpful… but it’s all I got!
Oh… and that whole scenario took about 10 years… lol