Have That Talk

Now that we’ve planned our play date, or maybe we even actually managed to squeeze it into our schedule yesterday and had a bit of fun. Either way, I think it’s important to have a chat with our inner child. Implement lines of communication, find out what our child within wants and needs.

I don’t know what your self talk sounds like when it comes to your inner child. My self talk generally revolves around no we can’t do that yet because we have to do something else and the something else is usually not a  fun thing. Berating myself for leaving chaos behind whenever I do have a lot of fun doing something.

It’s so tempting to get all judgmental and authoritarian, maybe because when we were kids our mothers said stuff like:

• You are way too messy… you better clean that up right now.
• Don’t be silly… life isn’t a game.
• Stop being such a baby and grow up.

My idea for a talk with our inner children is more of a Mr. Rogers type chat. Something kind. A cozy little get together where we do a lot of listening, and smiling, maybe even some hugging… Maybe wear a sweater… Possibly there might be tea and cookies! It might even look like this:

During this cozy little chat, let’s find out what our inner child wants and needs in order to be happy.  And then let’s make plans to follow through.

How about it guys? What are your thoughts? What does your inner child want and need in order to be happy? Does your self talk reflect the way your actual mom talked to you when you were an actual child? Maybe that’s something that needs to be changed!

Oh and one more thing!

What if we changed the way we talk to ourselves, rewrote the way we tell ourselves what to do. Maybe something like this?

• Time for a bath and bed, tomorrow I’ll help you put your toys away.
• Here, punch this pillow a bunch of times and then we’ll go for a walk.

Lots to think about here!