Best Friends
Wherever you go, there you are! It’s true. There is only one person in this world that is with you every step of the way. They were there at the beginning and they’ll be there at the end. That person is YOU.
And this brings me to what I want to talk about and think about today. Being your own best friend. Being my own best friend. What does that look like?
For me, it looks like this:
I’m actually a good friend to have. I’m loyal. I’m interesting. I have ideas about just about everything under the sun. And if I don’t have to do the driving, I’m up for lots of cool stuff to explore and go do. I’m also pretty good about accepting my friends for who and how they are, not being the least bit interested in changing them into someone or something else.
I do, however, expect to be kept in the loop because my primary love language is “spending quality time” and if you don’t want to spend time with me, I’m likely to drift away.
I’m also very intense and tend to be self absorbed, plus I need plenty of alone time. I probably won’t invite you over to my house very often. And I’m sure that I can be really hard to deal with plenty of times, especially when I’m being stubborn about weird shit.
Which leads me to question if I actually am a good friend to me. And if I am, how can I be a better friend? What would I want from myself if I was my friend…. if there were two of me and we were friends… what would I be wanting more of? What would I want less of?
What about you? What kind of a friend are you? Are you your own best friend? And if you are friends with yourself how could you improve your relationship? And if you are not your own best friend, what can you do to change that? How could you go about cultivating that relationship?
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I am definitely not a good friend to myself. I “say” stuff to myself that I woul never say to even a casual friend. I am more nurturing to my friends than I am to myself. I “value” my friends much more than I do myself. I feel guilty and selfish when I try to take care of me
One of the things I found interesting is that I don’t spend enough time with myself. I’m always off somewhere else in my head, or doing something for or with someone else… I’m going to try to figure out how to have more quality time with ME!
Quality time is my love language too. So I put great effort into spending time with people I love, I’m usually the coordinator of events, the hostess, and the cruise director. Because I’ve found that most people are so insular, if left to their own devices, they won’t reach out or try to connect in a meaningful way. In being my own best friend, I think the stillness and the deep built in connection with myself is the most beautiful thing. I don’t have to try to live myself or see things from a different perspective. I really love myself. Faults and all. Writing it out sounds kind of narcissistic but it’s true. The thing that makes self love healthy,I think, is when you learn from loving yourself how to truly love others.
I’ve also observed over the course of life that when you give love to yourself, it’s always received and honored. But When you give or receive love to or from other people, it can be rejected, misused, misunderstood… that just doesn’t happen when you give love to yourself. It’s pretty amazing and powerful when you tap into it,
Sorry, didn’t intend it to be anonymous. This is Dawn
Thanks Dawn! Great to see you here! And you are absolutely right.