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Self Esteem

Summoning Angels

  • Acknowledge that there is a power within you that is greater than yourself.
  • Meditate as an active listener, not just always the asker.
  • Now summon the angels. (They usually speak in your own thought voice.)
  • Experience the outpouring of creative energy releasing within you like a warm incubator light.
  • Sigh in thanksgiving as you empty your crystal chalice temple of stale thoughts and negative patterns.
  • Be receptive to listening. Let go of those blocks like notions, assumptions, myths and criticism that drown out creativity, risks and unscientific notions.
  • Bless this declaration and instill positive affirmation rather than those usual notes of self-criticism.
  • Ask for openness. One that does not criticize yourself. If that dreadful voice arises (and it does), let go of it.
  • Picture yourself as a vital, enthusiastic, healthy, peaceful and creative sparkle.
  • Embrace and encounter the unlimited power within yourself.
  • Recognize that you are a sacred creative being, inspired by angels, full of exciting ideas and boundless creative energy.
  • Act on your hunches.

Surely, There Must Be A Tremendous Force

Surely, there must be a tremendous Force, Power, Being or Presence, which has brought forth the sunlight, the rain, or the snow of this day. There is a Something operating invisibly in this universe, sending forth all this glory into expression, a glory of which I am a part, for I, too, have been sent into expression by That which sent forth the flowers and the trees, the birds, and all that is.

I am one with all life. And just as this invisible Force is pouring sunshine into the room, so it is pouring life and being into me, and through me: intelligence, wisdom, guidance, direction, love, care, and protection. All of these are flowing in and through me.

~Joel Goldsmith

Five Things

Our primary relationship in life is with our selves. No one else goes through every experience in life with us. We are our one permanent companion, yet we are often our worst critic. To remind ourselves of our magnificence, we can do this exercise: “Five Things I Like About Myself.”

Begin by writing down at least five things that you like about yourself. This is not the time to be modest. If you are having trouble coming up with a total of five items, you know that this exercise can really benefit you. Be sure to include more than your physical attributes on your list, since our bodies are only part of who we are.

If you are still struggling with what to include on your list, think of what you like about your favorite people, because these traits are probably qualities that you possess too. Another way to complete your list is to think of five things you don’t like about yourself and find something about these traits that you can like.

Continue this process for a week, thinking of five new things you like about yourself everyday. At the end of the week, read the list aloud to yourself while standing in front of a mirror. Instead of looking for flaws to fix, allow the mirror to reflect your magnificence. You may feel silly about standing in front of a mirror and reading aloud a list of your admirable attributes, but it might just bring a smile to your face and change the way you see yourself.

Remember, it is when you feel the most resistant that this exercise can benefit you the most. Because we are constantly looking at the world, instead of looking at ourselves, we don’t often see what’s magnificent about ourselves that others do. When we take the time to experience ourselves the way we would experience someone we love and admire, we become our best companion and supporter on life’s journey.

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Call Yourself

Look deep in the mirror
And say: ‘I LOVE YOU’
And immediately
An electric current will
Ripple throughout your soul
And burst through your eyes
Like shooting stars
Dancing across the skies
In ecstasy.
To tell your soul you love it –
Is like remembering
WHO YOU ARE
After being in a coma
For a hundred years.
Your face will beam the light
Of a hundred galaxies.”

~Suzy Kassem

Be Your Own Favorite Child

I have discovered three elements to establishing a strong relationship to Spirit: establishing a daily self-care baseline, listening to the wisdom of the body, and treating myself like my own favorite child.

An acquaintance of mine recently mentioned that he decided to find his baseline for self-care. What he meant was that he wondered just how much time he needed to spend each day or week to take care of himself so that he experienced a true present all of the time. What he discovered was that it took a pretty serious chunk of time writing in his journal, talking to friends with whom he could be authentic, attending 12-step meetings, meditating, getting exercise to simply maintain his center.

I decided to try it for myself. I discovered that to establish and maintain an inner sense of calmness and security, I had to write in my journal for about thirty minutes each day, meditate (breathe deeply) for at least ten minutes each day, say prayers and affirmations each morning and evening, and work out for thirty minutes at least three days per week. This recipe is my baseline for minimum self-care. I know that if I go below this line, I wont be as present, in my body, conscious, or centered as I could be.

I must be centered to communicate with my higher power. If I am not, then the clutter in my mind, the worries and obsessions that I experience, and the problems that ensue take up my creative energy and leave no room for a meaningful chat with Spirit. This baseline will look different for different people. Start small and listen to your intuition. I have a friend that puts on music and dances every morning before she starts her day. Another friend lists five things she is grateful for each night, and another friend chants every morning. How does your self-care dance look?

The second element to establishing and maintaining a fluid and dynamic relationship with yourself, thus your higher power, is staying in tune with your body. The body is an amazing instrument of memory and intelligence. Recent studies point to the fact that the brain is not the only organ that holds information and experience. In his landmark 1991 book called The Holographic Universe, Michael Talbot asserts that the body is holographic and thus, each part reflects the whole.

The body is always letting us know how we are feeling.

He relays a story of being upset with his spleen. Evidently, after visualizing his distressed spleen as healthy, he became impatient at its slow recovery and yelled at it. A while later he went to a psychic who knew nothing of his condition. She sensed his spleen was upset and asked whether he had been yelling at it.

In my work with clients in trance states, a body part will frequently tense in response to a particular issue. When people are guided to explore what the body is telling them, they will inevitably receive valuable information. In a recent session, a client said her throat had tensed. When she asked it why it had tensed, it told her that she was afraid to tell her partner her true feelings, fearing he would get mad and reject her. It was a major breakthrough in the session, and gave her the information she needed to take care of herself.

The other day, I was driving with a friend who was lecturing me on a political matter. All of a sudden, I got a pain in my stomach. He asked me what was wrong. I told him I had a pain in my stomach and I thought that it meant that I was feeling pressured to agree with him. As soon as I said that, the pain went away. The body is always letting us know how we are feeling. All we need to do is listen and ask. Listening and being guided by our body’s knowledge continues to create a clear vessel for us to receive messages from higher power, thus enabling us to enter the flow and jitterbug in the dance of life.

The final key to a meaningful relationship with Spirit is treating yourself like your favorite child. Angeles Arrien, a cross-cultural anthropologist, asserts that we in the West are stuck in the wounded child paradigm. She suggests that we have to remember that we all have an enchanted child within us, a child that was never wounded by any abuse or dysfunction, a child that yearns to laugh and play and be wildly free and silly.

Have you contacted your enchanted child lately and taken her or him on a date? Better yet, have him or her take you on a date. The bigger point is to begin to develop the ability to be internally referenced. That is, to ask yourself (and only yourself) how you feel and what you want and who you are. It is only through developing a sense of your life as a precious being, silly and smart and fallible and learning and sad and angry and all of who you are, that you will begin to dialogue in a meaningful way with yourself as spirit.

Another key is developing the ability to detach and be the loving parent to your sub-personalities. The other day something triggered a fear I had, and I was in a state of panic for two days. That is a classic example of a sub-personality taking over. Once I finally saw this, I shrunk that part of myself until my “coordinator” self was once again leading the dance.

If you are overwhelmed in any way, or repeating a pattern that seems out of control to you, then you have a sub-personality that is power-tripping your coordinator self. The part of you that is reading this article and could be characterized as the “neutral” part of you is your coordinator. Make sure he or she is in charge, because that voice, vision, and feeling is the channel that God speaks through. Its that part of you who is responsible for loving, nurturing, and caring for yourself (parenting yourself). If this voice is crowded out by wounded sub-personalities, then chances are that no matter how loud higher power is trying to guide your dance steps, you’ll be stumbling solo.

It is only through having a close and meaningful relationship with yourself that you begin to have an authentic relationship to your higher power. By establishing a baseline for your self-care, listening to and honoring the wisdom of your body, and treating yourself like your favorite child, you will receive Spirits guidance. It is through this co-creative process that we become one with the flow. Once that occurs, hold on for the dance of a lifetime!

Article by Nan Joy at Soul Work Counseling .

Love Yourself – Love Your Inner Family

In order to love yourself, you need to get to know your Inner Family.

But what does loving yourself really mean? Is it about getting yourself a hot chocolate when you are cold? Is it about getting yourself a new dress when you feel like it? Is it doing whatever you want when you want? Is it about putting warm clothes on when its freezing outside?

Loving yourself means to learn to treat yourself like a loving parent would do with his child.

When you are an adult, you still have an Inner Child inside you. These are your emotions. At that level you still react like a child of 3-4 years old. Your emotions can not get older or mature. But you can get mature. You can learn how to respect them and how to handle them. You can learn how to take care of this Inner Child, a valuable part of your inner family.

When you are not aware of your Inner Child, you try to live in an adult world like a 4-year old boy or girl. You feel all alone, afraid of the big nasty world there outside, not knowing what to do, where to ask for help, how to protect you. This is a very difficult way of doing. You will always feel afraid, fearful, doubtful, tired. It is hard to try to survive as a child in a grown up world. You will feel angry and afraid most of the time, and lost.

Why is that? Because nobody takes care of that Little Child inside you. Lets say your name is Charlotte. You are 42 years old. Inside you lives your Inner Family. An important part of this Inner Family is the little Charlotte. Shes four. When you are busy in the outside world taking care of other people, of business, of getting around, of doing a thousand things every day, the little Charlotte will feel overlooked. When you’re always running to help others, to make sure their needs are fulfilled, you will be exhausted every night and cry in your bed. Sometimes you will get temper tantrums. You will feel very angry without any reason (but still there is one, a big one!).

All of these big emotions are attempts from your Inner Child to get your attention. It is your Inner Family’s responsibility to take care of her.

Let’s look at your Inner Family another way. Imagine you have (in addition to your children, husband, colleagues, parents, and friends) a little four-year old girl named Charlotte. Nobody ever notices her. Nobody takes care of her. Whenever she tries to tell something and get some attention, you shout to her Shut up!. You say I have to take care of my parents, my work, my husband, my paperwork, my friends, my other children, my house I don’t have time for you!

How do you think she will feel? What do you think she will do? First she will try to get your attention by showing big emotions. She will cry a lot, she will scream and shout, maybe shes getting aggressive from time to time. You think you’re angry at the outside world, but it is Your Inner Child that is angry with YOU! Shes sad and angry because you don’t care about her! You act as if she doesn’t exist! Nothing is worse than acting as if our Inner Child doesn’t exist. This means trying to live as if WE don’t exist.

The worst feeling in the world is being disloyal to one’s self. Nothing is worse than this!

How many times have we ignored what we felt in order to please someone else? How many times did we say to our Inner Child Shut up, you are not important, the other one is far more important than you are, go away, I don’t want to hear you, I don’t want to see you? Awful, isn’t it? And we do this every time we let the desire of the other one come before ours.

This little Charlotte inside, what will she do? She will give up after a while. After trying a long time to show her emotions, she will give up. She will get very tired of all this and she will say, It doesn’t matter, she doesn’t love me, she doesn’t want to take care of me, I’m not worth it, and she will get depressed.

Of course you will think you get depressed because of others, because of your work, because of your children, because of your husband or parents. It is nobody’s fault. But you have to learn how to take care of this Inner Child which is suffering from your lack of attention.

If you’re depressed and things still don’t change, there’s one weapon left to catch your attention: little Charlotte will get sick. Or she will get an accident. Maybe that way the adult Charlotte will finally learn to give attention to her Inner Child, which is as real (if not more) as a real child of flesh and blood.

You need to learn how to be a loving parent to yourself.

But what does that mean?

First you need to develop an Inner Mother as part of your Inner Family. If you were lucky and had a loving caring mother, you can use her as an example. Otherwise you need to invent a new Inner Mother, which is your feminine caring energy. Every time you have a strong emotion, your Inner Mother should ask your Inner Child, “What’s going on, my darling?” Listen to what your Inner Child has to say. Then you go on with the dialogue. Your Inner Mother might say, “Come here. Let me hold you, I love you as you are. I love you no matter what you feel.”

Doing that, the heaviness of the emotions will lessen. Then the mother of your Inner Family can say these words, “I understand.” These words are very important, because most of the time we don’t feel very normal having the feelings that we have. We try to ignore or suppress our feelings, which only makes them heavier.

Stay with these words and feelings for a while, and than ask, “What do you need?” However your Inner Child answers, just say, “We will ask this of your Father.”

And here starts the task of the Father of your Inner Family, who is there to protect you and to act for you in the outside world. You would never send a four-year old asking for a raise at work or getting to resolve a conflict at school or with the neighbours, would you? So why do you try it? Send out your Inner Father to take care of whatever you have to do in the outside world. Your Inner Father is your male energy, which enables you to make decisions, to take action, to follow your inner guidance (which is located in you Inner Child, also called Intuition) and to manifest your Child’s desires in the world.

When your Inner Child needs to do something scary, imagine that your Inner Child stays at home with the Inner Mother who takes care of his feelings (I understand you’re afraid) and that your Inner Father goes out there to act. Your Inner Father is that part of your Inner Family which is able to handle stress, to take action, to arrange conflicts and everything that has to do with the outside world. If that part of you is missing because you didn’t have a good role model when you were young, you will have to create and develop it now instead.

Loving yourself is listening to your Inner Child, taking his/her emotions seriously, understanding what he/she feels and taking action in the desired direction. Loving yourself is having this dialogue with your Inner Family every morning when you open your eyes, every evening when you go to bed, and every time you notice that you are feeling a strong emotion.

Loving yourself is building a strong inner connection with yourself. It is creating your own loving Inner Family. You will never feel alone anymore. You are already there! Wherever you go, from now on you go with your Inner Family. You are not alone. You are loved and you are protected. You listen to yourself and take care of that precious little Child that has been waiting for so long to get your attention and love.

This is inner healing.

Article by: Ineke Van Lint

Ineke Van Lint‘s main goal is to get your energy and excitement flowing again and to help you create a life filled with enthusiasm. I want you to find your passion and your reason for living and realize your dreams and your self.

It’s Totally Up To You

I deserve to be,
I want to be,
I can be,
I will be,
I am.

If you want to change your life you need to change how you think and change what you do. Self-help, personal change, being happy: it’s up to you. No-one else.

You decide. This is the first step. Self-help starts with you. Self-help and personal change starts with your realization that it really is in your own hands, and your decision to do something about it.

Your own self-belief is the key to successful life-change, achievement, contentment, and happiness.

Your own mind, particularly positive suggestion and visualization, will develop your self-belief, and your determination to make successful change to your life.

This exercise will help you begin to change the way you think, feel and act.

Use it any time you want to boost your self-belief, to relax, and to regain control of your life and direction.

Print this page and put it above your mirror, above your bed, above your desk, anywhere you’ll see it every day.

Make time – actually schedule some time in your planner or diary to do this. It will dramatically improve your mood, attitude, and approach to life, and therefore what you get from life.

Positive suggestion and visualization, combined with deep relaxation, is an easy way to make powerful positive personal change.

Just going through this relaxation exercise alone will help to change and improve the way you feel. If you combine the relaxation techniques with a repeated script of positive statements, such as the ‘I am’ script below, you will begin change the way you think, and feel, and act, and all that life offers as a result.

The more you use the relaxation exercise and say or hear the script, then the greater and more sustainable will be the effect.

The time it takes to change depends on different people. Stick with it and it will become easier, more natural, more enjoyable, and it will work.

The Relaxation Exercise

Some people find it easier than others to relax deeply. It comes with practice.

If you find it difficult, allow yourself more time when going through the relaxation exercise. Create or put yourself into a quiet relaxing calm environment. Shut out noise and distractions. Lie down rather than sit.

When relaxing and emptying your mind it is natural for thoughts to arise – in which case simply acknowledge them gently and let them go – visualize them floating away like a balloon into the distance. Your ability to empty your mind and relax, free from thoughts, will improve with practice.

When you practice, you will increase the ease with which you can relax, and then you will find that you no longer need such a quiet environment. You will even find that you can achieve a deeply relaxed state in quite noisy stressful environments. Even sitting at your desk at work.

  • Sit or lie down comfortably. Properly comfortably.
  • Straighten your back, put your shoulders back to open your rib-cage.
  • Relax your shoulder muscles particularly.
  • Relax your whole body, and empty your mind.
  • Close your eyes (obviously open them when you need to read the next stage).
  • Take ten deep, slow breaths. Breathe from the pit of your stomach and feel your lungs filling.
  • Focus on your breathing.
  • Feel it getting deeper and slower.
  • Feel yourself relaxing and any tension drifting away.
  • Relax your shoulders and neck again.
  • Visualize yourself being happy, succeeding, winning, being loved, laughing, feeling good.
  • Relax your forehead, your mouth and your eyes.
  • Allow a gentle smile to appear on your face as you feel a calmness enter your mind.
  • Then say (out loud ideally) the words below (a script for personal change) to yourself.

The Script:

The use of scripts while in a deeply relaxed state is a ages-old method of gaining and maintaining control over our personal feelings and behaviors.

Relaxation combined with positive ‘self-talk’ enables self-help.

The use of scripts or strong statements while in a deeply relaxed state enables a ‘conditioning’ effect on our subconscious.

Changing our subconscious – our feelings and beliefs – increases our sense of calm and well-being, and also enables change in our conscious thoughts and behaviors. It’s that simple.

Here’s an example of a script. Feel free to rewrite or change it in any way that feels right for you. Your own personal script can be long or short, the only requirements are that it reflects positive statements that feel good when you think about them:

  • I am
  • I am good person.
  • I have integrity.
  • I do what is ethically right and good.
  • Whatever life puts before me will be useful experience that will make me stronger, wiser, and more tolerant.
  • I am strong enough to understand and make allowances for other people’s weaknesses, and their behavior towards me. Other people’s behavior is about them, not me.
  • I focus on the joy of living my life and helping others where and when I can.
  • I am what I eat and drink, so I eat and drink good things.
  • I am what I watch and play and listen, so I watch and play and listen to good positive things.
  • I take exercise which I enjoy. I walk when I don’t need to drive or take the bus or train.
  • I smile and laugh whenever I can – life is good – getting caught in the rain reminds me that it is good to be alive to feel it.
  • I forgive other people. Deep down everyone is a good person, just like me.
  • I am a compassionate and loving, caring person.
  • I am a good person.
  • I am.

Notes:

Most ordinary good, honest ‘being’ people are fooled into believing that what they have is not worth anything. Don’t be fooled.

The answer to happiness and fulfillment is usually found in achieving a simple acceptance of, and joy of living, a good life.

Enjoy ‘being’ and living a good life.

Next time you get caught in the rain, or bump the car, or get a headache – enjoy being alive to feel it and experience it.

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Japanese Method to Relax In 5 Minutes

There are many ways to cope with stress. Regular exercise, connecting with others, yoga, and massages are a few. However, there’s also a Japanese self-relaxation technique that can be done anywhere in 5 minutes. To give a quick background, each of the fingers in our hand represents a different kind of emotion or feeling.

  • The Thumb helps fend off emotions like worry and anxiety.
  • The Index finger helps you fight your fears.
  • The Middle finger helps control feelings of rage and bitterness.
  • The Ring finger aids in fighting melancholy and depression.
  • The Pinky helps relieve stress and boosts your optimism and self-esteem.

Here are the steps!

Your goal is to balance all the opposing energy forces in your body. Start this by taking one finger at a time, grasping it with the opposite hand and wrapping every finger around it.

Hold each finger for one to two fingers. Wait until you feel the pulse. This is when you know it’s working.

To aid in relaxation, apply slight pressure to the center of your palm with your opposite thumb and hold for at least one minute.

If you practice this technique every day, your spirit becomes balanced, enabling you to deal with stress much more effectively.

Here’s a how-to video:

Boost Your Self-Esteem

Umar Hameed the founder of The Baltimore Washington Institute of NLP. In this video he shares an amazing technique for boosting self esteem. This self esteem is intrinsic in other words its a REAL way to boost your self esteem. This technique was developed by Robert Dilts.

According to Louise Hart, “Self-esteem is as important to our well-being as legs are to a table. It is essential for physical and mental health and for happiness.”

Websites: NLP MD and Productivity Cubed

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