I sometimes feel as if my “To Do” lists rule my life. Often the list is the first thing I do in the morning, and then all day long I judge myself by my failures and successes as measured against the almighty “To Do.” So I came up with the ultimate “To Do” list replacement ideas.
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I can” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I will not” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To find” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To be” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To explore” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I do not” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To love” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I am not” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I will” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To understand” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To touch” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I could” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I might” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To know” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To share” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To see” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To give” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To let go” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To grow” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I am” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To enjoy” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I want to” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To feel” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To hear” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To heal” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To think about” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had an “I wonder” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “To try” list?
- What if instead of a “To do” list, you had a “What if” list?
Surely, there must be a tremendous Force, Power, Being or Presence, which has brought forth the sunlight, the rain, or the snow of this day. There is a Something operating invisibly in this universe, sending forth all this glory into expression, a glory of which I am a part, for I, too, have been sent into expression by That which sent forth the flowers and the trees, the birds, and all that is.
I am one with all life. And just as this invisible Force is pouring sunshine into the room, so it is pouring life and being into me, and through me: intelligence, wisdom, guidance, direction, love, care, and protection. All of these are flowing in and through me.
Here is a great affirmation:
Divine Mind within me is a Mind full of intelligence and love. It loves me as Itself, and wants to give me the intelligence I need all the time. In order to be helped by Divine Mind within me, I have to believe in It. I must take the mental attitude that I know what I need to know, and then expect to receive exactly the ideas or information I need.
I have discovered three elements to establishing a strong relationship to Spirit: establishing a daily self-care baseline, listening to the wisdom of the body, and treating myself like my own favorite child.
An acquaintance of mine recently mentioned that he decided to find his baseline for self-care. What he meant was that he wondered just how much time he needed to spend each day or week to take care of himself so that he experienced a true present all of the time. What he discovered was that it took a pretty serious chunk of time writing in his journal, talking to friends with whom he could be authentic, attending 12-step meetings, meditating, getting exercise to simply maintain his center.
I decided to try it for myself. I discovered that to establish and maintain an inner sense of calmness and security, I had to write in my journal for about thirty minutes each day, meditate (breathe deeply) for at least ten minutes each day, say prayers and affirmations each morning and evening, and work out for thirty minutes at least three days per week. This recipe is my baseline for minimum self-care. I know that if I go below this line, I wont be as present, in my body, conscious, or centered as I could be.
I must be centered to communicate with my higher power. If I am not, then the clutter in my mind, the worries and obsessions that I experience, and the problems that ensue take up my creative energy and leave no room for a meaningful chat with Spirit. This baseline will look different for different people. Start small and listen to your intuition. I have a friend that puts on music and dances every morning before she starts her day. Another friend lists five things she is grateful for each night, and another friend chants every morning. How does your self-care dance look?
The second element to establishing and maintaining a fluid and dynamic relationship with yourself, thus your higher power, is staying in tune with your body. The body is an amazing instrument of memory and intelligence. Recent studies point to the fact that the brain is not the only organ that holds information and experience. In his landmark 1991 book called The Holographic Universe, Michael Talbot asserts that the body is holographic and thus, each part reflects the whole.
The body is always letting us know how we are feeling.
He relays a story of being upset with his spleen. Evidently, after visualizing his distressed spleen as healthy, he became impatient at its slow recovery and yelled at it. A while later he went to a psychic who knew nothing of his condition. She sensed his spleen was upset and asked whether he had been yelling at it.
In my work with clients in trance states, a body part will frequently tense in response to a particular issue. When people are guided to explore what the body is telling them, they will inevitably receive valuable information. In a recent session, a client said her throat had tensed. When she asked it why it had tensed, it told her that she was afraid to tell her partner her true feelings, fearing he would get mad and reject her. It was a major breakthrough in the session, and gave her the information she needed to take care of herself.
The other day, I was driving with a friend who was lecturing me on a political matter. All of a sudden, I got a pain in my stomach. He asked me what was wrong. I told him I had a pain in my stomach and I thought that it meant that I was feeling pressured to agree with him. As soon as I said that, the pain went away. The body is always letting us know how we are feeling. All we need to do is listen and ask. Listening and being guided by our body’s knowledge continues to create a clear vessel for us to receive messages from higher power, thus enabling us to enter the flow and jitterbug in the dance of life.
The final key to a meaningful relationship with Spirit is treating yourself like your favorite child. Angeles Arrien, a cross-cultural anthropologist, asserts that we in the West are stuck in the wounded child paradigm. She suggests that we have to remember that we all have an enchanted child within us, a child that was never wounded by any abuse or dysfunction, a child that yearns to laugh and play and be wildly free and silly.
Have you contacted your enchanted child lately and taken her or him on a date? Better yet, have him or her take you on a date. The bigger point is to begin to develop the ability to be internally referenced. That is, to ask yourself (and only yourself) how you feel and what you want and who you are. It is only through developing a sense of your life as a precious being, silly and smart and fallible and learning and sad and angry and all of who you are, that you will begin to dialogue in a meaningful way with yourself as spirit.
Another key is developing the ability to detach and be the loving parent to your sub-personalities. The other day something triggered a fear I had, and I was in a state of panic for two days. That is a classic example of a sub-personality taking over. Once I finally saw this, I shrunk that part of myself until my “coordinator” self was once again leading the dance.
If you are overwhelmed in any way, or repeating a pattern that seems out of control to you, then you have a sub-personality that is power-tripping your coordinator self. The part of you that is reading this article and could be characterized as the “neutral” part of you is your coordinator. Make sure he or she is in charge, because that voice, vision, and feeling is the channel that God speaks through. Its that part of you who is responsible for loving, nurturing, and caring for yourself (parenting yourself). If this voice is crowded out by wounded sub-personalities, then chances are that no matter how loud higher power is trying to guide your dance steps, you’ll be stumbling solo.
It is only through having a close and meaningful relationship with yourself that you begin to have an authentic relationship to your higher power. By establishing a baseline for your self-care, listening to and honoring the wisdom of your body, and treating yourself like your favorite child, you will receive Spirits guidance. It is through this co-creative process that we become one with the flow. Once that occurs, hold on for the dance of a lifetime!
Article by Nan Joy at Soul Work Counseling .
In order to love yourself, you need to get to know your Inner Family.
But what does loving yourself really mean? Is it about getting yourself a hot chocolate when you are cold? Is it about getting yourself a new dress when you feel like it? Is it doing whatever you want when you want? Is it about putting warm clothes on when its freezing outside?
Loving yourself means to learn to treat yourself like a loving parent would do with his child.
When you are an adult, you still have an Inner Child inside you. These are your emotions. At that level you still react like a child of 3-4 years old. Your emotions can not get older or mature. But you can get mature. You can learn how to respect them and how to handle them. You can learn how to take care of this Inner Child, a valuable part of your inner family.
When you are not aware of your Inner Child, you try to live in an adult world like a 4-year old boy or girl. You feel all alone, afraid of the big nasty world there outside, not knowing what to do, where to ask for help, how to protect you. This is a very difficult way of doing. You will always feel afraid, fearful, doubtful, tired. It is hard to try to survive as a child in a grown up world. You will feel angry and afraid most of the time, and lost.
Why is that? Because nobody takes care of that Little Child inside you. Lets say your name is Charlotte. You are 42 years old. Inside you lives your Inner Family. An important part of this Inner Family is the little Charlotte. Shes four. When you are busy in the outside world taking care of other people, of business, of getting around, of doing a thousand things every day, the little Charlotte will feel overlooked. When you’re always running to help others, to make sure their needs are fulfilled, you will be exhausted every night and cry in your bed. Sometimes you will get temper tantrums. You will feel very angry without any reason (but still there is one, a big one!).
All of these big emotions are attempts from your Inner Child to get your attention. It is your Inner Family’s responsibility to take care of her.
Let’s look at your Inner Family another way. Imagine you have (in addition to your children, husband, colleagues, parents, and friends) a little four-year old girl named Charlotte. Nobody ever notices her. Nobody takes care of her. Whenever she tries to tell something and get some attention, you shout to her Shut up!. You say I have to take care of my parents, my work, my husband, my paperwork, my friends, my other children, my house I don’t have time for you!
How do you think she will feel? What do you think she will do? First she will try to get your attention by showing big emotions. She will cry a lot, she will scream and shout, maybe shes getting aggressive from time to time. You think you’re angry at the outside world, but it is Your Inner Child that is angry with YOU! Shes sad and angry because you don’t care about her! You act as if she doesn’t exist! Nothing is worse than acting as if our Inner Child doesn’t exist. This means trying to live as if WE don’t exist.
The worst feeling in the world is being disloyal to one’s self. Nothing is worse than this!
How many times have we ignored what we felt in order to please someone else? How many times did we say to our Inner Child Shut up, you are not important, the other one is far more important than you are, go away, I don’t want to hear you, I don’t want to see you? Awful, isn’t it? And we do this every time we let the desire of the other one come before ours.
This little Charlotte inside, what will she do? She will give up after a while. After trying a long time to show her emotions, she will give up. She will get very tired of all this and she will say, It doesn’t matter, she doesn’t love me, she doesn’t want to take care of me, I’m not worth it, and she will get depressed.
Of course you will think you get depressed because of others, because of your work, because of your children, because of your husband or parents. It is nobody’s fault. But you have to learn how to take care of this Inner Child which is suffering from your lack of attention.
If you’re depressed and things still don’t change, there’s one weapon left to catch your attention: little Charlotte will get sick. Or she will get an accident. Maybe that way the adult Charlotte will finally learn to give attention to her Inner Child, which is as real (if not more) as a real child of flesh and blood.
You need to learn how to be a loving parent to yourself.
But what does that mean?
First you need to develop an Inner Mother as part of your Inner Family. If you were lucky and had a loving caring mother, you can use her as an example. Otherwise you need to invent a new Inner Mother, which is your feminine caring energy. Every time you have a strong emotion, your Inner Mother should ask your Inner Child, “What’s going on, my darling?” Listen to what your Inner Child has to say. Then you go on with the dialogue. Your Inner Mother might say, “Come here. Let me hold you, I love you as you are. I love you no matter what you feel.”
Doing that, the heaviness of the emotions will lessen. Then the mother of your Inner Family can say these words, “I understand.” These words are very important, because most of the time we don’t feel very normal having the feelings that we have. We try to ignore or suppress our feelings, which only makes them heavier.
Stay with these words and feelings for a while, and than ask, “What do you need?” However your Inner Child answers, just say, “We will ask this of your Father.”
And here starts the task of the Father of your Inner Family, who is there to protect you and to act for you in the outside world. You would never send a four-year old asking for a raise at work or getting to resolve a conflict at school or with the neighbours, would you? So why do you try it? Send out your Inner Father to take care of whatever you have to do in the outside world. Your Inner Father is your male energy, which enables you to make decisions, to take action, to follow your inner guidance (which is located in you Inner Child, also called Intuition) and to manifest your Child’s desires in the world.
When your Inner Child needs to do something scary, imagine that your Inner Child stays at home with the Inner Mother who takes care of his feelings (I understand you’re afraid) and that your Inner Father goes out there to act. Your Inner Father is that part of your Inner Family which is able to handle stress, to take action, to arrange conflicts and everything that has to do with the outside world. If that part of you is missing because you didn’t have a good role model when you were young, you will have to create and develop it now instead.
Loving yourself is listening to your Inner Child, taking his/her emotions seriously, understanding what he/she feels and taking action in the desired direction. Loving yourself is having this dialogue with your Inner Family every morning when you open your eyes, every evening when you go to bed, and every time you notice that you are feeling a strong emotion.
Loving yourself is building a strong inner connection with yourself. It is creating your own loving Inner Family. You will never feel alone anymore. You are already there! Wherever you go, from now on you go with your Inner Family. You are not alone. You are loved and you are protected. You listen to yourself and take care of that precious little Child that has been waiting for so long to get your attention and love.
This is inner healing.
Article by: Ineke Van Lint
Ineke Van Lint‘s main goal is to get your energy and excitement flowing again and to help you create a life filled with enthusiasm. I want you to find your passion and your reason for living and realize your dreams and your self.
Severing Emotional Ties ~
Cut the cords and take back your energy
Every time you physically interact with someone, you run the chance of “cording,” meaning you create attachments (or emotional cords) that facilitate the exchange of energy between you and that person. These cords are said to be made of aura light, a kind of cosmic taffy that binds you together. And the closer you get (physically), the stronger the cords become. This explains why some people stay with us long after they’re gone, or often we just can’t seem to “let go.” We need to learn to cut the cord(s)!
Since the depth of the connection established between you and any given person depends on the level of physical interaction you’ve had, it follows that cords with those you know most intimately are strongest. For instance, sexual intercourse (or even a deep kiss) can result in being corded to someone for seven years. Some even argue that a handshake can establish a cord. It’s no wonder some people don’t like extending a hand to strangers!
According to Barbara Brennan, the best selling author of Hands of Light, there are five types of cords: soul cords, past life experience cords, genetic cords (connection to birth parents), parental relationship cords, and relationship cords. Since they are formed on the fourth aura layer and higher, these cords remain intact “before and beyond three dimensional physical space.” In other words, once they are made, these cord connections never dissolve, although it is possible that they get damaged, tangled or “dirty.”
That’s when it’s time to start snipping!
Why cord cutting is necessary
If you are unaware that your cords exist, it is easy to feel the other person’s emotions and mistakenly think that they’re yours. Moreover, cords can limit the amount of closure you can experience when a relationship is over. Keeping cords alive can also leave you with a continued sense of sadness for much longer than necessary; deplete you of your life juice and leave you feeling depressed.
Think about it: do you really want negative vibes flowing between you and your ex? They exist regardless who ended the relationship. When you understand that, cutting emotional cords sounds like a very good idea. It’s particularly ideal if you’ve gone through a break-up, a divorce, quit a job, moved, undergone the death of a loved one, or if you are at the dawn of a new relationship.
It helps you move forward, leave behind old baggage, unnecessary attachments, and release you from connections that are no longer serving you. Basically, it clears space for more positive connections.
The ancient practice is also beneficial if you would like to upgrade the vibration of your existing relationship. You can then re-cord but you need to resist playing into old established patterns (this appears as any button pushing that upsets or angers you).
How to determine if you’re ready to do it
Do not undergo this ritual if you are still mourning. You need those emotional cords to get you through the process. If you cut cords prematurely, the mourning period will feel even more intense. Make sure you are mentally prepared to move onward and upwards.
To determine if cord cutting is for you, ask yourself:
- Are you co-dependant?
- Do you have difficulty being alone?
- Are you hypsensitive?
- Are you ready to let go of a relationship that is no longer serving you?
If you feel ready to proceed, try the meditation below in the comfort of your own home.
A cord cutting meditation
Before you start, it is important that you feel relaxed and that you set a strong intention to release the cords that exist between you and someone else.
To begin, breathe deeply and perform a simple centering meditation. When you are ready, visualize or sense the cords that are connecting you to other people.
Run your fingers through the cords to separate them until you find the cord you wish to sever. There is no need to worry, because the cord you need to sever will feel just right. When you have found it, determine where the cut should be made and then visualize the cord being cleanly cut. If you need assistance, Archangel Michael can be called upon to help you with his sword. Afterwards, if you feel that cutting the cord has left spaces in your energy field, visualize those spaces being filled with healing sunlight.
Keep in mind that you’re not severing a relationship; you are severing the cords that are no longer serving you both. At other times, a cord may simply refuse to be cut because it is still serving a higher purpose. It is also important to remember that cutting a cord with someone is not a replacement for doing your emotional work. This is a positive and nurturing act. By cutting the cords that no longer need to be there, you are simply setting yourself and others free from the ties that bind.
by Maryam Henein
In a classic research-based TEDx Talk, Dr. Lara Boyd describes how neuroplasticity gives you the power to shape the brain you want. Recorded at TEDxVancouver at Rogers Arena on November 14, 2015.
Our knowledge of the brain is evolving at a breathtaking pace, and Dr. Lara Boyd is positioned at the cutting edge of these discoveries. In 2006, she was recruited by the University of British Columbia to become the Canada Research Chair in Neurobiology and Motor Learning. Since that time she has established the Brain Behaviour Lab, recruited and trained over 40 graduate students, published more than 80 papers and been awarded over $5 million in funding.
Dr. Boyd’s efforts are leading to the development of novel, and more effective, therapeutics for individuals with brain damage, but they are also shedding light on broader applications. By learning new concepts, taking advantage of opportunities, and participating in new activities, you are physically changing who you are, and opening up a world of endless possibility.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
This is a powerful guided self hypnosis trance experience designed to allow you to sweep away your own subconscious negativity and negative blocks. Clear out all of your subconscious or unconscious negative thoughts, old habits, and emotional baggage with your own positive mind control.
Do not listen to this recording whilst driving or operating machinery.
Enjoy deep relaxation and improved focus, as you take this time to create your own most beneficial behaviors, by discovering new and empowering choices. With regular self hypnosis, you can truly allow your powerful, positive thinking self to emerge for your best present and brighter future.
This session uses principles of deep trance relaxation, visualization and elements of hypnotherapy to help you to overcome your own internal blocks which may be preventing you from living the happier, emotionally freer life you truly deserve.
This track is suitable for repeated listening, for anytime you would like to strengthen and compound your own internal positivity or engage with your higher self.
All hypnosis is self hypnosis. The power for positive change resides within your own mind. If you choose to accept the suggestions presented in this session, you can rest comfortably knowing that you are the one safely in control of your own positive results.
Peace & Enjoy