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Love Yourself – Love Your Inner Family

In order to love yourself, you need to get to know your Inner Family.

But what does loving yourself really mean? Is it about getting yourself a hot chocolate when you are cold? Is it about getting yourself a new dress when you feel like it? Is it doing whatever you want when you want? Is it about putting warm clothes on when its freezing outside?

Loving yourself means to learn to treat yourself like a loving parent would do with his child.

When you are an adult, you still have an Inner Child inside you. These are your emotions. At that level you still react like a child of 3-4 years old. Your emotions can not get older or mature. But you can get mature. You can learn how to respect them and how to handle them. You can learn how to take care of this Inner Child, a valuable part of your inner family.

When you are not aware of your Inner Child, you try to live in an adult world like a 4-year old boy or girl. You feel all alone, afraid of the big nasty world there outside, not knowing what to do, where to ask for help, how to protect you. This is a very difficult way of doing. You will always feel afraid, fearful, doubtful, tired. It is hard to try to survive as a child in a grown up world. You will feel angry and afraid most of the time, and lost.

Why is that? Because nobody takes care of that Little Child inside you. Lets say your name is Charlotte. You are 42 years old. Inside you lives your Inner Family. An important part of this Inner Family is the little Charlotte. Shes four. When you are busy in the outside world taking care of other people, of business, of getting around, of doing a thousand things every day, the little Charlotte will feel overlooked. When you’re always running to help others, to make sure their needs are fulfilled, you will be exhausted every night and cry in your bed. Sometimes you will get temper tantrums. You will feel very angry without any reason (but still there is one, a big one!).

All of these big emotions are attempts from your Inner Child to get your attention. It is your Inner Family’s responsibility to take care of her.

Let’s look at your Inner Family another way. Imagine you have (in addition to your children, husband, colleagues, parents, and friends) a little four-year old girl named Charlotte. Nobody ever notices her. Nobody takes care of her. Whenever she tries to tell something and get some attention, you shout to her Shut up!. You say I have to take care of my parents, my work, my husband, my paperwork, my friends, my other children, my house I don’t have time for you!

How do you think she will feel? What do you think she will do? First she will try to get your attention by showing big emotions. She will cry a lot, she will scream and shout, maybe shes getting aggressive from time to time. You think you’re angry at the outside world, but it is Your Inner Child that is angry with YOU! Shes sad and angry because you don’t care about her! You act as if she doesn’t exist! Nothing is worse than acting as if our Inner Child doesn’t exist. This means trying to live as if WE don’t exist.

The worst feeling in the world is being disloyal to one’s self. Nothing is worse than this!

How many times have we ignored what we felt in order to please someone else? How many times did we say to our Inner Child Shut up, you are not important, the other one is far more important than you are, go away, I don’t want to hear you, I don’t want to see you? Awful, isn’t it? And we do this every time we let the desire of the other one come before ours.

This little Charlotte inside, what will she do? She will give up after a while. After trying a long time to show her emotions, she will give up. She will get very tired of all this and she will say, It doesn’t matter, she doesn’t love me, she doesn’t want to take care of me, I’m not worth it, and she will get depressed.

Of course you will think you get depressed because of others, because of your work, because of your children, because of your husband or parents. It is nobody’s fault. But you have to learn how to take care of this Inner Child which is suffering from your lack of attention.

If you’re depressed and things still don’t change, there’s one weapon left to catch your attention: little Charlotte will get sick. Or she will get an accident. Maybe that way the adult Charlotte will finally learn to give attention to her Inner Child, which is as real (if not more) as a real child of flesh and blood.

You need to learn how to be a loving parent to yourself.

But what does that mean?

First you need to develop an Inner Mother as part of your Inner Family. If you were lucky and had a loving caring mother, you can use her as an example. Otherwise you need to invent a new Inner Mother, which is your feminine caring energy. Every time you have a strong emotion, your Inner Mother should ask your Inner Child, “What’s going on, my darling?” Listen to what your Inner Child has to say. Then you go on with the dialogue. Your Inner Mother might say, “Come here. Let me hold you, I love you as you are. I love you no matter what you feel.”

Doing that, the heaviness of the emotions will lessen. Then the mother of your Inner Family can say these words, “I understand.” These words are very important, because most of the time we don’t feel very normal having the feelings that we have. We try to ignore or suppress our feelings, which only makes them heavier.

Stay with these words and feelings for a while, and than ask, “What do you need?” However your Inner Child answers, just say, “We will ask this of your Father.”

And here starts the task of the Father of your Inner Family, who is there to protect you and to act for you in the outside world. You would never send a four-year old asking for a raise at work or getting to resolve a conflict at school or with the neighbours, would you? So why do you try it? Send out your Inner Father to take care of whatever you have to do in the outside world. Your Inner Father is your male energy, which enables you to make decisions, to take action, to follow your inner guidance (which is located in you Inner Child, also called Intuition) and to manifest your Child’s desires in the world.

When your Inner Child needs to do something scary, imagine that your Inner Child stays at home with the Inner Mother who takes care of his feelings (I understand you’re afraid) and that your Inner Father goes out there to act. Your Inner Father is that part of your Inner Family which is able to handle stress, to take action, to arrange conflicts and everything that has to do with the outside world. If that part of you is missing because you didn’t have a good role model when you were young, you will have to create and develop it now instead.

Loving yourself is listening to your Inner Child, taking his/her emotions seriously, understanding what he/she feels and taking action in the desired direction. Loving yourself is having this dialogue with your Inner Family every morning when you open your eyes, every evening when you go to bed, and every time you notice that you are feeling a strong emotion.

Loving yourself is building a strong inner connection with yourself. It is creating your own loving Inner Family. You will never feel alone anymore. You are already there! Wherever you go, from now on you go with your Inner Family. You are not alone. You are loved and you are protected. You listen to yourself and take care of that precious little Child that has been waiting for so long to get your attention and love.

This is inner healing.

Article by: Ineke Van Lint

Ineke Van Lint‘s main goal is to get your energy and excitement flowing again and to help you create a life filled with enthusiasm. I want you to find your passion and your reason for living and realize your dreams and your self.

Super Self Confidence Hypnosis

This self confidence hypnosis session combines brainwave entrainment audio and is designed to boost your self esteem and rewire your brain for success.

▶ NEUROPLASTICITY

Your sense of self is not set in stone but is in fact malleable and subject to the influence of your environment. It’s interesting to note that behaviour modification has an effect on the actual physical structure of your brain, so when adopting a new mindset, your brain will over time alter itself to reflect a newly learnt habit. New habits typically take 30 days to take root depending on what you’re trying to achieve, and this may vary depending on the levels of resistance built up over time.

▶ INSTRUCTIONS

Sit or lie down comfortable and listen through headphones at a comfortable volume – set the level so you can just about hear the pulsing effect of the 4hz isochronic tone – this is the pulsing effect that you hear in the background. 4hz corresponds to a Theta state, which is very conductive to receiving and integrating positive suggestions. The object of this frequency in a rested state is to interrupt your mind’s critical faculty so that new behaviours can potentially take root and override the old ones.

Through you may find that a single listening session will have a positive short term knock on effect, it is recommended that you listen for a minimum of 30 days for maximum integration. And also, more importantly, take action in your day to day life to act in accordance with your new mindset.

The first 10 minutes feature a powerful relaxation induction, which will induce a deep hypnotic state. The actual programming takes place in the second half of the audio.

Enjoy and don’t forget to share!

▶ LINKS

On Self Confidence

As the Athletic Director and head coach of the Varsity Soccer team at Ryerson University, Dr. Joseph is often asked what skills he is searching for as a recruiter: is it speed? Strength? Agility? In Dr. Joseph’s TEDx Talk, he explores self confidence and how it is not just the most important skill in athletics, but in our lives.

Deep Confidence and Sleep

This is a guided hypnotherapy session, designed to help improve your natural ability to relax, strengthen your self esteem, and enhance your self confidence with deep mind positive suggestions.

Do not listen to this recording whilst driving or operating machinery.

These suggestions will encourage you to fall asleep and to remain soundly asleep once you have. This session is suitable for repeated listening.

The end of this session will not awaken you, instead it will allow you to continue to drift and dream deeply into a complete and satisfying night’s rest, so that you might awaken after your sleep’s full duration feeling refreshed, rejuvenated and revived for your day ahead.

All hypnosis is self hypnosis. The power for positive change resides within your own mind. If you choose to accept the suggestions presented in this session, you can rest comfortably knowing that you are the one safely in control of your own positive results.

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