Protect Yourself From Energy Vampires
Protect yourself from energy-draining forces with these practical, effective techniques from renowned healer and bestselling author Judith Orloff, MD.
I’d like to talk a bit about one of the most relevant topics to my patients: energy vampires. It’s amazing how many people are being drained by others and have absolutely no idea what to do about it. In this article and corresponding exercises, I’ll introduce you to what an energy vampire is, how to recognize one, and how to combat one. Once you have these skills, you won’t be so prone to being drained by others’ energy.
Many of my patients go years allowing themselves to be drained by energy vampires, including relatives, bosses, or peripheral people in their lives—and they tolerate it as normal. I define an energy vampire as somebody who sucks your energy dry. You need to use your body’s intuition to sense this; it’s not something you can get with your mind.
For example, you’re talking to someone at a party who looks perfectly nice—yet as you chat, your energy bottoms out and you start feeling seasick or tired. Your energy is being drained by this person even though there might not be an obvious cause.
In that situations like this, the rational mind tries to talk you out of your realization that you’re being drained by another person’s energy. Your mind makes excuses: “I’m getting the flu, I’m not feeling well, or I’m so neurotic.” As a psychiatrist and a physician, I’m here to say that this energy vampire phenomena is real, and I’m asking you to trust your intuition whenever you feel your energy being drained by other people.
What my patients report, unfortunately, is that when they encounter an energy vampire, they’re afraid to excuse themselves—to flee the situation—because they’re afraid of being impolite. This is a big hindrance to self-care because as you’re being drained, your mind is having a dialogue convincing you why this isn’t happening and why you should stay there. You need to use your intuition to gauge your energy level around somebody who’s draining your energy—and then take appropriate action.
I want you to trust yourself with people on the deepest level. We’ll talk about what kinds of energy vampires there are and specific techniques to deal with them. But to begin, look at your life and begin to analyze people who give you energy versus people who drain your energy.
Make a list, and be absolutely honest about who are the drainers in your life. This is your private list, so don’t worry about hurting other people’s feelings. It may be hard to really take a look: Are your vampires family? Is it your mother, father, sister, brother? Could it be your cousins, or your co-workers, your boss, or your friends? It could be someone you love very much, but he or she still drains your energy.
Take a total inventory of your life and write down the names of these people in your journal so that you can honestly assess where your energy is going. As we go through this exercise, you’ll be able to see what type of energy vampire they are and what to do about them.
Many of us experienced energy vampires when we were children, and sometimes these vampires came in the form of loving parents who didn’t mean to be vampires—yet they were.
My mother was a very large, “movie-star” energy. She was flamboyant, expressive, and loving, but she also had opinions that used to decimate me when I was a girl, so she was an energy vampire in that sense. She would get me with zingers such as, “You have such wild hair,” or “Why do you wear those clothes?” or “If you only wore different clothes, you’d be so beautiful.”
Zinger comments like that make you feel about two inches tall and drain your energy—proving that words have energy. My mother didn’t mean to hurt me; in fact, she loved me with all her heart. Yet the unconscious part of her—or the tape that was in her head—would say hurtful things. In fact, I felt so damaged that it’s taken me years to feel comfortable going shopping and buying clothes that I like without hearing my mother’s voice.
Energy vampires have the propensity to say things that drain your energy and take a really long time to get over. So as you’re taking inventory of the energy vampires in your life, reflect back on your childhood and ask yourself, “Now what did my mother say? What did my father say?” Try to remember words, behavior, or any kind of activity that might have drained your energy.
Our energy is very sensitive. A child is especially open to the body’s subtle energy fields, so having an energy vampire in your life at a very young age can damage your energy field. That damage can come from simple things a parent says or from more extreme energy vampires, such as alcoholic or abusive parents. You carry this damage with you all your life until you begin to heal it. And you can heal it if you’re conscious of how childhood experiences with energy vampires affect your energy level as an adult.
As you take stock, also look back on the people who gave you energy. This gives you a clear sense of the origins of both the positive and negative energy so you can become attuned to areas in yourself that need healing or repair. This way you can have the maximum amount of energy now in your life.
On the following practices, we explore some common varieties of energy vampires: the sob sister, the blamer, the drama queen, and the constant talker. You’ll learn to recognize these energies in your life and learn some practical techniques for combating them to keep your energy strong, grounded, and balanced.
Guided Practices to Protect against Energy Vampires
I’m excited to share with you some positive energy practices to deal with energy vampires. There are separate practices for each type of vampire, but you can use each practice with any vampire you choose. You must use your intuition and common sense to determine which practice fits each vampire.
- Energy Vampire #1: The Sob Sister
This practice protects your energy by helping you set clear boundaries with a sob sister, the chronic complainer, so that he or she won’t continually run over your energy.
Settle into a comfortable seated position, close your eyes, and breathe deeply in the moment. Begin to center yourself and let all the tension release. Relax and open to this visualization.
When a sob sister is complaining, take a breath, center yourself, and tell yourself you can handle this. And then gently, lovingly, sensitively you begin to set boundaries.
If this is a friend calling you on the phone, visualize yourself saying, “You know, I love you, but I can only listen for five or ten minutes—until you get into solutions.”
The sob sister might get angry or resist, so you’ll have to be very consistent every time this happens and keep saying, “I love you, but I can only listen for five or ten minutes. When you’re interested in talking about solutions to this problem, I’m here for you.”
I’d like you to visualize being able to open your mouth, speak up, and set boundaries for this sob sister, so you don’t feel victimized by this energy vampire’s complaints.
- Energy Vampire #2: The Blamer
Now here’s a practice you can try for the energy vampire who’s a blamer. Again, settle into a comfortable position, close your eyes, center yourself, and breathe deeply in the moment.
To deflect a blamer’s vibes and words, you can use your own energy as a shield. I’d like you to visualize yourself being around a blamer—at a dinner table, at work, anywhere you might encounter him or her. Now imagine yourself enveloped by a cocoon of white light.
Picture it as a shield that totally surrounds you. Then when you’re at the dinner table and the blamer starts up, you’ll take a breath, tell yourself you can deal with this, and visualize white light all around your body, a protective shield covering every single inch of you.
This covering lets positive energy in but keeps negative energy out. When you’ve erected this shield, you may hear the blamer’s words and see their mouths moving, but the energy doesn’t affect you. In the visualization, I’d like you to feel this shield strengthening.
This shield isn’t meant to numb you out. What you’re doing with this visualization is to build a buffer zone where these negative vibes cannot get to you—that you can erect anytime—to protect you from an energy vampire’s drain.
- Energy Vampire #3: The Drama Queen
In this positive energy practice you again deal with the drama queen, or any vampire, from a centered, calm place. Settle into a comfortable position, close your eyes, center yourself, and breathe deeply.
The moment you sense the drama queen revving up, take a slow, deep breath to ground yourself before he or she has the power to throw you off.
Breathing is a wonderful way to quickly connect with your life force that gives you the strength to know that you have the wherewithal to deal with a drama queen.
It’s critical not to give person’s dramas any mileage, so when he or she starts revving up, tell yourself you know what you’re dealing with—and that you can handle it.
Practice saying to the drama queen, “I’m so sorry all of this is happening to you, but I have to get back to work now.”
The idea is to set limits quickly and continue with the next activity.
The point of the visualization is to practice denying the drama queen any mileage so that she or he goes to somebody else. You need to do this from a calm, centered place, and you need to practice it over and over again.
- Energy Vampire #4: The Constant Talker
Here’s a positive energy practice to deal with the constant talker or joke-teller. As before, I’d like you to close your eyes, center yourself, and breathe deeply in the moment. Visualize that you’re in the presence of a vampire who won’t stop bombarding you with words.
Imagine you’re at a party, and he or she has you cornered and is going on and on about something without pausing for a breath when you could interrupt.
Constant talkers don’t respond to nonverbal cues, so when dealing with a constant talker, you must visualize yourself being ready to interrupt them. As you hear the constant rant, you say to yourself, “As hard as this may be, I will interrupt this person.” Then practice saying, “Excuse me, I’m so sorry to have to interrupt you, but I’m really going to have to go on and talk to this other person. It was nice talking to you; goodbye.”
This might feel awkward at first, but with the constant talker there are no other options. You must open your mouth and speak up, but with a kind, sensitive, loving tone. Interrupting the constant talker with anger or irritability will only keep them talking. The key is protecting your energy by staying neutral, interrupting in a kind way, and then excusing yourself so you can escape the barrage of their energy drain.
Practice this over and over again. It’s typically very hard to interrupt someone, and we’re not taught to do that in our society. Inwardly tell yourself, “This is irritating, but I want to treat this constant talker respectfully.”
The constant talker will go on to someone else and immediately start up again. So the idea is to gracefully express yourself and remove yourself from the situation.
Take Back Your Power
Severing Emotional Ties ~
Cut the cords and take back your energy
Every time you physically interact with someone, you run the chance of “cording,” meaning you create attachments (or emotional cords) that facilitate the exchange of energy between you and that person. These cords are said to be made of aura light, a kind of cosmic taffy that binds you together. And the closer you get (physically), the stronger the cords become. This explains why some people stay with us long after they’re gone, or often we just can’t seem to “let go.” We need to learn to cut the cord(s)!
Since the depth of the connection established between you and any given person depends on the level of physical interaction you’ve had, it follows that cords with those you know most intimately are strongest. For instance, sexual intercourse (or even a deep kiss) can result in being corded to someone for seven years. Some even argue that a handshake can establish a cord. It’s no wonder some people don’t like extending a hand to strangers!
According to Barbara Brennan, the best selling author of Hands of Light, there are five types of cords: soul cords, past life experience cords, genetic cords (connection to birth parents), parental relationship cords, and relationship cords. Since they are formed on the fourth aura layer and higher, these cords remain intact “before and beyond three dimensional physical space.” In other words, once they are made, these cord connections never dissolve, although it is possible that they get damaged, tangled or “dirty.”
That’s when it’s time to start snipping!
Why cord cutting is necessary
If you are unaware that your cords exist, it is easy to feel the other person’s emotions and mistakenly think that they’re yours. Moreover, cords can limit the amount of closure you can experience when a relationship is over. Keeping cords alive can also leave you with a continued sense of sadness for much longer than necessary; deplete you of your life juice and leave you feeling depressed.
Think about it: do you really want negative vibes flowing between you and your ex? They exist regardless who ended the relationship. When you understand that, cutting emotional cords sounds like a very good idea. It’s particularly ideal if you’ve gone through a break-up, a divorce, quit a job, moved, undergone the death of a loved one, or if you are at the dawn of a new relationship.
It helps you move forward, leave behind old baggage, unnecessary attachments, and release you from connections that are no longer serving you. Basically, it clears space for more positive connections.
The ancient practice is also beneficial if you would like to upgrade the vibration of your existing relationship. You can then re-cord but you need to resist playing into old established patterns (this appears as any button pushing that upsets or angers you).
How to determine if you’re ready to do it
Do not undergo this ritual if you are still mourning. You need those emotional cords to get you through the process. If you cut cords prematurely, the mourning period will feel even more intense. Make sure you are mentally prepared to move onward and upwards.
To determine if cord cutting is for you, ask yourself:
- Are you co-dependant?
- Do you have difficulty being alone?
- Are you hypsensitive?
- Are you ready to let go of a relationship that is no longer serving you?
If you feel ready to proceed, try the meditation below in the comfort of your own home.
A cord cutting meditation
Before you start, it is important that you feel relaxed and that you set a strong intention to release the cords that exist between you and someone else.
To begin, breathe deeply and perform a simple centering meditation. When you are ready, visualize or sense the cords that are connecting you to other people.
Run your fingers through the cords to separate them until you find the cord you wish to sever. There is no need to worry, because the cord you need to sever will feel just right. When you have found it, determine where the cut should be made and then visualize the cord being cleanly cut. If you need assistance, Archangel Michael can be called upon to help you with his sword. Afterwards, if you feel that cutting the cord has left spaces in your energy field, visualize those spaces being filled with healing sunlight.
Keep in mind that you’re not severing a relationship; you are severing the cords that are no longer serving you both. At other times, a cord may simply refuse to be cut because it is still serving a higher purpose. It is also important to remember that cutting a cord with someone is not a replacement for doing your emotional work. This is a positive and nurturing act. By cutting the cords that no longer need to be there, you are simply setting yourself and others free from the ties that bind.
by Maryam Henein
My Heart is God’s Heart
I AM the mighty electronic energy
Flowing through, filling and renewing
Every cell of my mind and body, right now.
I AM the cleansing process
Always active in my heart and mind and body,
Consuming all imperfection and revealing the purity I AM.
My breath is the great love breath
From out the Great Central Sun.
My heart is God’s heart, the very center of divine love,
And its light fills me now!
Source: I AM Adorations and Affirmations
Borrowed from: The Violet Flame Project
The Seventh Ray
I have been on a search for understanding just what the Violet Flame is and why it seems to work as well as it does. I came across this article at Marius Art. I am not sure if I believe the stories about Ascended Masters, Saint Germain, and etc, but I am keeping an open mind because the Violet Flame decrees are working really well for me. I’d be curious to know what you all think, your ideas and observations.
Here’s the article:
The violet flame is the essence of one of the “seven rays.” Just as a ray of sunlight passing through a prism is refracted into the seven colors of the rainbow, so spiritual light manifests as seven rays. Each ray has a specific color, frequency and quality of God’s consciousness. The violet ray is known as the seventh ray. When you invoke it in the name of God, it descends as a beam of spiritual energy and bursts into a spiritual flame in your heart as the qualities of mercy, forgiveness, justice, freedom and transmutation.
Saint Germain is known as the Lord of the Seventh Ray. Each time we pray to him, he brings us many gifts of the Spirit-his joy, diplomacy and creativity. He can inspire us with his innovations in science, literature, religion, government, philosophy, education, healing, alchemy and other fields.
For almost seventy years, Saint Germain has been preparing us to enter into the age of Aquarius, an era of peace, freedom and enlightenment. He appeared to Guy Ballard in the early 1930s and gave him the first teaching on the violet flame.
Saint Germain said that after centuries of keeping the knowledge of the violet flame secret, the Masters had decided to release its use to the public during this crucial time. Saint Germain has said, “The use of the violet consuming flame is more valuable to you and to all mankind than all the wealth, all the gold and all the jewels of this planet.” (The Voice of the I AM January 1941 p.20)
The violet flame works a little like soap. Soap gets dirt out of your clothes by using the positive and negative charges of atoms. It works because each of its molecules has two sides-a side that is attracted to dirt and a side that is attracted to water. The dirt-loving side attracts the dirt, like a magnet attracts paper clips when it is dragged through a box of them. The water-loving side sticks to the water, carrying the dirt with it.
When we invoke the violet flame, it sets up a polarity between the nucleus of the atom and the white-fire core of the flame. The nucleus, being matter, assumes the negative pole; the white-fire core of the violet flame, being Spirit, assumes the positive pole.
The interaction between the nucleus of the atom and the light in the violet flame establishes an oscillation. This oscillation dislodges the densities that are trapped between the electrons orbiting the nucleus. As this hardened substance that weighs down the atom is loosened, it is thrown into the violet flame and carried away.
But unlike soap, the violet flame does not simply surround and remove the debris; it transforms it into pure light-energy. Freed of this debris, the electrons begin to move more freely, thus raising our vibration and propelling us into a more spiritual state of being.
People do notice a spiritual and physical difference when they use the violet flame. But what actually happens when we repeat the words of a violet-flame decree?
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Why Does The Violet Flame Work?
“People do notice a spiritual and physical difference when they use the violet flame. But what actually happens when we repeat the words of a violet-flame decree?”
This is what I have been trying to figure out, and what follows is an explanation that I found at Marius Fine Art. I’m not sure what I think about the Ascended Masters, but the Violet Flame decrees definitely have an effect on me, so I’m keeping an open mind.
“I can give you two perspectives on this-the spiritual perspective as it has been revealed to me by the Ascended Masters and a scientific perspective based on recent developments in physics and medicine. Both explanations involve the concept of vibration.
In physics, vibration is the speed at which something moves back and forth, or oscillates. As I understand it, at a spiritual level vibration is also the rate of spin of the electrons as they move around the nucleus of the atom. As we will see, these definitions may not be far apart.
We each have four bodies that are envelopes of our soul:
- The physical body, which we can see and touch;
- The desire, or astral, body, which contains our emotions;
- The mental body, which is our conscious mind;
- The etheric, or memory, body, which contains the memories of all of our past lives.
The violet flame works on these four lower bodies by changing the rate of their vibration.
Saint Germain has given us the violet-flame decree:
“I AM a being of violet fire!
I AM the purity God desires!”
When you recite this and other violet-flame decrees, the violet flame permeates every cell and atom of your body, into your mind, your emotions, your subconscious and your memory.
What does the violet flame do when it permeates your atoms? The Masters have given the following explanation.
We all know that atoms are mostly empty space. If an atom were the size of a basketball, its nucleus would still be too small for our eyes to see. Yet 99.9 percent of the mass of the atom is concentrated in the nucleus, leaving the rest of that basketball as empty space, inhabited solely by electrons, which weigh very little. All that empty space between the nucleus and the edge of the atom is where discord and negative energy can become stuck.
At the cellular and molecular level, this substance appears as dust, soot, tar or even cement. The Masters have used the illustration of someone taking a pail of molten tar and pouring it over a barrel full of marbles. The space between the marbles gets gummed up by the tar running down, and soon the whole mass is welded together.
The Masters tell us that when our physical and spiritual bodies become clogged by negative energy and karma, it slows down the vibration of the electrons in our four lower bodies. We then begin to resonate more with negativity and less with the pure cosmic energy that comes from our God Presence, and eventually we can become ill. The more substance there is in our four lower bodies, the lower our rate of vibration and the more burdened we become. Spiritually, this is why people die.
If you have studied acupuncture and yoga, you know that optimum health comes when spiritual energy is flowing freely through our bodies. When karmic substance solidifies, it’s like the hardening of the arteries of our spiritual bodies. When we resonate with this negativity, we will gradually become it unless we do something to turn ourselves around.
The violet fire transmutes anything negative that is lodged anywhere in your spiritual or physical being. This includes everything from kernels of self-hatred to physical viruses. When the violet flame goes to work, it passes through the clogged spaces between the electrons and the nuclei. It ejects these particles of dense substance from your body and dissolves them. This process transmutes the negative energy into positive energy and restores it to its native purity.
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How the Violet Flame Works
I just read an article about how the Violet Flame works, written by Patricia Cota-Robles. I would really love it if these informational essays were written in a more ordinary way, sometimes the terms and phrases used put me off a little bit, cause some eye rolling, and invoke my inner skeptic. So I thought I would try to translate it into terms and phrases that I understand, that fit in with my personal view of the world, and how things work. It was an interesting exercise, and I’m sharing it here.
How The Violet Flame Works:
When we invoke the Violet Flame, we give permission for this specific flow of energy to enter our lives. It flows into our conscious minds and infuses our bodies with it’s own unique energy. At this point, this energy can be directed by our intention and our declarations.
Here’s an example. If we are interested in changing our lives by removing the limitations we may have placed on ourselves through our own belief systems, behavior patterns, conditioning, or karma. If we would like to be in the flow of money, prosperity, happiness, … whatever it might be. We can simply ask that the Violet Flame accomplish that goal for us. We do this with our I AM Decrees.
When the Decree is said either internally or outwardly, with certainty, and with feeling, it creates a vibration. Much like ripples on a pond, or the wind stirring leaves on the trees into action. This vibration moves out from you and into the wider world and as it does so, things begin to change. Why? Because everything is at it’s core, a vibration, and this stronger vibration of the Violet Flame working hand in hand with your own certainty, brings dissonance into resonance. Changes the energy field.
Sometimes our core beliefs, the belief systems of those around us, past lives, present experiences, etc etc. make it really difficult to accept anything other than the status quo. It becomes very very difficult to see the good in a bad situation, to see prosperity when your finances say differently, to take advantage of opportunities when you don’t hear them knocking at your door. Think of a tree in the dead of winter, bare of leaves, and yet it is full of life, and if we didn’t already know this, we would assume the worst.
When we use the Violet Flame energy, it acts as a catalyst for change. The higher vibration of the energy of the Violet Flame livens things up, gets that old stagnant negativity moving again. Just as when Spring comes and the trees become green, the flowers bloom, everything seems to come alive again.
The Violet Flame can transmute anything we want to heal or transform in our individual lives or on the planet. It can transmute and change anything. All we have to do is invoke the Violet Flame into action through our I AM Presence.
When invoking the Violet Flame, we can work on specific issues in our lives, tackle global problems, or create an invocation that covers the gamut of problems manifesting on Earth. In that case, we can use the invocation as a mantra and be an instrument of the Violet Flame any time and any place. For example, a simple invocation might be:
“I AM my Beloved I AM Presence, invoking the full power of the Violet Flame to transmute cause, core, effect, record, and memory every thought, feeling, word, action, or belief Humanity and I have ever expressed in any time frame or dimension, both known and unknown, that reflects anything less than the infinite perfection of God’s Divine Love.”
By memorizing a simple affirmation like this, we can say it frequently throughout the day. Then we will be a constant force of the Violet Flame wherever we are and whatever we are doing.
Occasionally, people invoke the Violet Flame without seeing the results in the outer world as quickly as they would like to see them. This gives them the erroneous impression that the Violet Flame is not working. That is never the case!
It is important to remember that when giving the decrees, you must feel the truth of it. Do not use a Decree that doesn’t “feel” right. Only use decrees that resonate completely, decrees that give you a feeling of strength and truth when you say them. You don’t have to believe with your mind, but it is important to feel the energy in your body.
The Violet Flame is a gift of Divine Light that works scientifically to the letter each and every time it is invoked by the I AM Presence. The moment you reach a critical mass of the Violet Flame in your Life there will be an unstoppable shift and whatever you are invoking will manifest in your life. The Key is to “Keep on keeping on!” The Violet Flame is infinitely more powerful than the fragmented, fear-based miscreations of your past.
Remember, you have the ability to transmute hundreds of lifetimes worth of negativity “in the twinkling of an eye.” Know that the Light of God is ALWAYS Victorious, and YOU are that Light.
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