It’s Totally Up To You

I deserve to be,
I want to be,
I can be,
I will be,
I am.

If you want to change your life you need to change how you think and change what you do. Self-help, personal change, being happy: it’s up to you. No-one else.

You decide. This is the first step. Self-help starts with you. Self-help and personal change starts with your realization that it really is in your own hands, and your decision to do something about it.

Your own self-belief is the key to successful life-change, achievement, contentment, and happiness.

Your own mind, particularly positive suggestion and visualization, will develop your self-belief, and your determination to make successful change to your life.

This exercise will help you begin to change the way you think, feel and act.

Use it any time you want to boost your self-belief, to relax, and to regain control of your life and direction.

Print this page and put it above your mirror, above your bed, above your desk, anywhere you’ll see it every day.

Make time – actually schedule some time in your planner or diary to do this. It will dramatically improve your mood, attitude, and approach to life, and therefore what you get from life.

Positive suggestion and visualization, combined with deep relaxation, is an easy way to make powerful positive personal change.

Just going through this relaxation exercise alone will help to change and improve the way you feel. If you combine the relaxation techniques with a repeated script of positive statements, such as the ‘I am’ script below, you will begin change the way you think, and feel, and act, and all that life offers as a result.

The more you use the relaxation exercise and say or hear the script, then the greater and more sustainable will be the effect.

The time it takes to change depends on different people. Stick with it and it will become easier, more natural, more enjoyable, and it will work.

The Relaxation Exercise

Some people find it easier than others to relax deeply. It comes with practice.

If you find it difficult, allow yourself more time when going through the relaxation exercise. Create or put yourself into a quiet relaxing calm environment. Shut out noise and distractions. Lie down rather than sit.

When relaxing and emptying your mind it is natural for thoughts to arise – in which case simply acknowledge them gently and let them go – visualize them floating away like a balloon into the distance. Your ability to empty your mind and relax, free from thoughts, will improve with practice.

When you practice, you will increase the ease with which you can relax, and then you will find that you no longer need such a quiet environment. You will even find that you can achieve a deeply relaxed state in quite noisy stressful environments. Even sitting at your desk at work.

• Sit or lie down comfortably. Properly comfortably.
• Straighten your back, put your shoulders back to open your rib-cage.
• Relax your shoulder muscles particularly.
• Relax your whole body, and empty your mind.
• Close your eyes (obviously open them when you need to read the next stage).
• Take ten deep, slow breaths. Breathe from the pit of your stomach and feel your lungs filling.
• Focus on your breathing.
• Feel it getting deeper and slower.
• Feel yourself relaxing and any tension drifting away.
• Relax your shoulders and neck again.
• Visualize yourself being happy, succeeding, winning, being loved, laughing, feeling good.
• Relax your forehead, your mouth and your eyes.
• Allow a gentle smile to appear on your face as you feel a calmness enter your mind.
• Then say (out loud ideally) the words below (a script for personal change) to yourself.

The Script:

The use of scripts while in a deeply relaxed state is a ages-old method of gaining and maintaining control over our personal feelings and behaviors.

Relaxation combined with positive ‘self-talk’ enables self-help.

The use of scripts or strong statements while in a deeply relaxed state enables a ‘conditioning’ effect on our subconscious.

Changing our subconscious – our feelings and beliefs – increases our sense of calm and well-being, and also enables change in our conscious thoughts and behaviors. It’s that simple.

Here’s an example of a script. Feel free to rewrite or change it in any way that feels right for you. Your own personal script can be long or short, the only requirements are that it reflects positive statements that feel good when you think about them:

• I am
• I am good person.
• I have integrity.
• I do what is ethically right and good.
• Whatever life puts before me will be useful experience that will make me stronger, wiser, and more tolerant.
• I am strong enough to understand and make allowances for other people’s weaknesses, and their behavior towards me. Other people’s behavior is about them, not me.
• I focus on the joy of living my life and helping others where and when I can.
• I am what I eat and drink, so I eat and drink good things.
• I am what I watch and play and listen, so I watch and play and listen to good positive things.
• I take exercise which I enjoy. I walk when I don’t need to drive or take the bus or train.
• I smile and laugh whenever I can – life is good – getting caught in the rain reminds me that it is good to be alive to feel it.
• I forgive other people. Deep down everyone is a good person, just like me.
• I am a compassionate and loving, caring person.
• I am a good person.
• I am.

Notes:

Most ordinary good, honest ‘being’ people are fooled into believing that what they have is not worth anything. Don’t be fooled.

The answer to happiness and fulfillment is usually found in achieving a simple acceptance of, and joy of living, a good life.

Enjoy ‘being’ and living a good life.

Next time you get caught in the rain, or bump the car, or get a headache – enjoy being alive to feel it and experience it.

Source: businessballs